The Truth About Feeling Lost In Life

Feeling Lost in Life

Life is a funny thing. From the moment we are born, we have our parents helping up reach our milestones. When we turn five, we start Kindergarten and begin the long journey of school. From five to eighteen, it is the norm to spend a minimum of six hours a day, five days a week busy with assignments. For eighteen years, we are told what we need to do, what we should achieve, and are limited to how we can spend our free time. In the moment, this structure can feel restricting. 

After graduation, everything changes. You can choose to spend the next few years furthering your education, but it is not required. Instead, you can join the workforce or travel the world. The future is wide open; it’s both exciting and overwhelming. 

When I was in school, I felt that the work I was doing had a purpose. Every test and essay was worth the time and dedication I put into it since it would help me maintain a high GPA and get into a good college. There was always a new club, class, or team to join to keep my life fresh. After I graduated, it was my responsibility to structure my life. I got a job, but I had a difficult time finding the purpose in the work I was doing. It wasn’t a job that challenged me physically, socially, or intellectually. After the Pandemic hit in 2020, everything came to a head. This was also a year of some personal conflicts that were out of my control and made me feel useless. I was going through the motions of my day, but I felt numb. Suddenly I was afraid of everything— people, trying new things, pushing my comfort zone. Taking chances seemed terrifying, so I merely kept myself busy. Netflix and books are great for getting through the day, but not for finding a purpose. 

Over the years, I have found ways to help with my aimless mindset. If you find yourself in a similar position to mine, these may help you:

First, turn back to old hobbies and interests. Think back to the things that brought you joy in the past and revisit them. This could be anything from an old favorite movie series, a sport, or an artistic hobby. This gives you a starting point for finding what you want to do in the future. 

Trying new things is a great way to grow as a person. Try volunteering in your community or picking an activity on your bucket list. A simple change in scenery can alter your perspective and refresh your brain 

An important thing to do during a sensitive time is to cut yourself some slack. Nobody is perfect. Life will never be perfect. Rather than searching for perfection, aim for peace, fulfillment, and happiness. Taking care of yourself is crucial. Focus on your hygiene, consuming foods that make you feel good, staying hydrated, and getting plenty of rest. 

Limiting time spent on social media is also helpful. It is easy to compare your life to the ones of influencers and celebrities online. Theodore Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” This is true now more than ever with the stream of social media sites being created year after year. 

Finally, you need to allow yourself to dream. Aiming for the moon with your goals is not childish- it is admirable. Follow your heart and work on your passions. Turn your dreams into goals and break them down into steps you can follow. 

If you are feeling lost in life, hopefully it brings you peace of mind to know that you are not alone and not stuck. Life is an insane roller coaster that we can only tackle one turn at a time. Keep moving forward and keep your head up. 

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